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In September, I continued with the poems listed in the blog post about the most anthologized poems.

It started with Shakespeare and ended with Ginsberg. I guess I’m really old school because removed from the centuries, Shakespeare is still more accessible – as a human – than Ginsberg is to me. There were a few more modern/modernist poems this month. They make me feel annoyed. Maybe they are showing me my own limitations of imagination or education. But I suspect they annoy me because I have the sense that they, like sneaky thieves, are just getting away with something.

 

September 1, 2018	Sonnet 73	William Shakespeare	Life is short. Love hard. What’s up with that 2nd line?
September 2, 2018	Sonnet 94	William Shakespeare	Long ago, I tried & failed to work the last line into a book title.
September 3, 2018	The Passionate Shephard to his Love	Christopher Marlowe	I like it. Straight and to the point.
September 4, 2018	They Flee from Me	Thomas Wyatt	Not a fav for me. But growing old and unpopular sucks.
September 5, 2018	Sir Patrick Spens	Anonymous	Just tell the king to stuff it.
September 6, 2018	Lord Randall	Anonymous	I like story poems. Did the true love kill him? And why?
September 7, 2018	For The Union Dead	Robert Lowell	I like what he did here – the expanse of time and theme.
September 8, 2018	Skunk Hour	Robert Lowell	Nice scene setting/painint of a scene and mood.
September 9, 2018	We Real Cool	Gwendolyn Brooks	The more I read, the more I like it. Short and punchy.
September 10, 2018	Harlem	Langston Hughes	Perfection.
September 11, 2018	Daddy	Sylvia Plath	Poetic rage.
September 12, 2018	My Papa’s Waltz	Theodore Roethke	Lovely father-son moment.
September 13, 2018	Thirteen Ways of Looking at a Blackbird	Wallace Stevens	With Stevens I sometimes feel as if I’m being made fun of.
September 14, 2018	Love Calls Us to the Things of this World	Richard Wilbur	A nice good morning poem.
September 15, 2018	After Apple-Picking	Robert Frost	He sounds almost apologetic to me going to sleep.
September 16, 2018	Design	Robert Frost	A fat, white spide is creepy enough.
September 17, 2018	Those Winter Sundays	Roberty Hayden	Good eulogy.
September 18, 2018	The Death of the Ball Turret Gunner	Randall Jarrell	I like when warriors are anti-war.
September 19, 2018	Shine, Perishing Republic	Robinson Jeffers	I really like the final lines/half of this poem.
September 20, 2018	Facing It	Yusef Komunyakaa	I’m not connecting with this one.
September 21, 2018	Ars Poetica	Archibald MacLeish	Very Modernist…very cold.
September 22, 2018	The Day Lady Died	Frank O’Hara	I like this snapshot of a memorable moment.
September 23, 2018	I Knew a Woman	Theodore Roethke	He digs this chick. Nice.
September 24, 2018	A Blessing	James Wright	This is nice and sweet.
September 25, 2018	Dream Song #14	John Berryman	I like the grumpiness.
September 26, 2018	Dream Song #29	John Berryman	Some of the phrases are nice. Wake up John.
September 27, 2018	The Fish	Elizabeth Bishop	I know this feeling. Nice.
September 28, 2018	In The Waiting Room	Elizabeth Bishop	Wonderfully told scene
September 29, 2018	I Know a Man	Richard Creely	Modernism. Either stupid or above my head.
September 30, 2018	After Great Pain, a Formal Feeling Comes	Emily Dickinson	She knows everything. And can write it.

Hello Lazarus Lizard
I almost stepped on you.
But I hopped aside…and fell.
The sidewalk caught my shoe.

So I landed on my ass
And torn my good dress pants
Please take solace in the fact
I’d never hop for ants.

I am a man of routine. Regimented. This is not a good thing but it’s how I’m built. I think it comes from a childhood of feeling in/un-secure so having something consistent to grasp onto is comforting. To that end, if I don’t do the following things each day, my day feels very off.

Journal – I do a verson of the 5 minute journal I’ve adapted for online use.
German – usually about 15 minutes a day using Duolingo. Last year was french, next year will be Italian in preparation for a trip there.
Read Poetry – or fiction in years past. For the past few years I’ve had an annual reading project. Poetry is this years.
Read Philosophy/Buddhism – It’s good to contemplate the reason for this life. Usually about 15 minutes of reading a book on Stoicism or Buddhism, my two main interests.
Stretch – I have a normal stretch routine I do in the mornings. I got it from an article on helping to recover from a desk job.
Chess – I play on chess.com. It’s a good barameter for how my mind is working – am I sharp, impatient, foggy, tired? No matter what I think, chess will tell me.
Meditate – 20 minutes at least with brief moments during the day at 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. if I’m able. Usually guided using HeadSpace
Music – Some kind of music – lately it’s been the recorder…you know that instrument kids play in 5th grade. 15 minutes of practice a day.
Draw – this is more aspirational. I’m on again/off again with this but it bothers me every day that I don’t learn how to express myself with pen and paper.
Exercise – Mostly walking, but I’ve laid off lately but do try to be active at home…doing something.
Mail – check it  every day, go through it. Or else it turns into a big ugly pile.
Water-3 liters – Just drink it.

I awoke to a disturbed, fitful dream of my father’s death early this morning.

My father had passed away not too long ago, his body was found looking as if asleep, in his leather chair in front of his TV, feet set on the ground and a sandwich on a plate in his lap. Peaceful. As if he’d fallen asleep while eating. So I know with fair certainty that he did not know that the next moment of his life was it. We don’t have cause of death but I believe it took him suddenly, like a fast moving shadow of a cloud – where once there was life, death was left; leaving no time for regrets or hopes or dreams or yearns.

While I don’t think he knew the reaper was coming for him at that moment, he knew cancer was eating away at his liver. But the doctors weren’t concerned. Testing had been done, experts had been consulted, a treatment regime planned. While he grew reflective in his illness, he was not saying his goodbyes to friends, family and life.

But I dreamt he saw the end coming. I dreamt he saw the scythe falling. I dreamt of scared eyes, of panic. He was not afraid of what was to come but was left undone. I dreamt the pain of regrets flash through his mind. I dreamt he tried to shout the things he wanted to say and bolted from his chair to do the things he’d put off. I dreamt he grasped for life: to say his goodbye, to share his “Rosebud” moment.

I’m still haunted by the dream. Not for what it may have meant for him but for myself. I’m going to be more diligent to say and do the things I need to so my daughters don’t have the same fitful dreams about my death as I had about my father’s.

Here are the notes/outline for the eulogy I gave for my father, Howard McEwen, Sr., June 25, 1946 – July 25, 2018

The day my dad died, I drove up and got to his empty house. The police and paramedics had left. Tara and Steve were out handling things elsewhere.

I sat in his brown leather chair, HIS chair. Things were quiet, except for one thing. Ticks and tocks. Ticks and tocks. I then noticed something I’d never noticed before. From that chair, I could see 9 clocks. HE could see nine clocks. Every night he was face-to-face with nine clocks. Three of which he had made.

He did tend to do things in extremes.

Whether consciously or not, I think this showed how important time was to him.

Ten years ago, he made a major step and took more control of his time. And his life. He did more woodworking, he visited Marge and Don more, he spent vacations with Bob and Betty – the highlight of his year. He cooked and he read, and read and read those mystery novels – I found a list of 1,000 of them he had read. He was no longer delaying things he wanted to do.

He told Tara the biggest downside of his sickness was that he was finally feeling happy. He was taking the time for himself and, in the process, giving himself to others. He spent his time well, how he wanted to spend it. Until his time ran out.

So the lesson to me, and maybe us, is that remember each moment, be in each moment. The past is past and the future – good or bad – is coming whether we like it or not. Be in the here and now because it’s all we have and life is slipping away with every tick and every tock. And I’m going to go home and put a few more clocks in the my own house.

I was excited to read Mansfield Park. What intrigued me was a lower class protagonist. Not upper-middle class like Elizabeth Bennet or the Dashwood sisters. Even if things didn’t turn out well for the women from S&S or P&P, they’d always have a roof and meal.

Fanny didn’t come from those circumstances.

I also thought the fish-out-of-water element would be nice. It was in the beginning but then Fanny did….nothing. She is the protagonist after all. I expected her – who drives the story – to face tough decisions and make difficult choices. I expected her to grow through some kind of adversity.

Maybe that’s just me.

She did nothing. Everything was done to her. The only time she got animated was when scolding people for having a good time.

By the end of the book, she grew tiresome and I couldn’t understand why Edmund would want to marry her.

Plus, there was that whole creepy, incestuous cousin, almost a brother thing between the two of them. Yuck.

Since last summer I’ve been posting pieces on Bow Tie Aficionado but not posting them here. So here they all are so far.

Bow Ties at a Funeral

It’s  Bow Tie…Not a Bow Untied

Bow Tie Review: Tie Room Marvin and Pilou

Bow Ties are NOT Cool

Pensee Bow Ties Review

Bow Tie Review: Bow Tie Club Excelsior

Disappointment When I Don’t Wear a Bow Tie

How to Get Your Fella to Wear a Bow Tie

Weight Loss and Bow Tie Courage

Bow Tie Questions

And here’s why I think that.

And here’s how I wear my bow tie.

My newest piece for Bow Tie Aficianado is here.